How to Recognize Signs of Elder Abuse – and What to Do About It
June 15 is recognized as World Elder Abuse Awareness Day. You’re probably asking why the need for this day? Well, because elder abuse is on the rise across the globe.
Senior abuse isn’t always obvious. It can mask itself behind smiles and feigned care.
The World Health Organization (WHO) defines elder abuse as any action, or failure to act, that harms an older person. Nowhere is safe. Not your home, nursing facilities, or hospitals.
How Common is Elder Abuse
The National Council on Aging argues that one in ten older adults experiences some form of abuse. And yet, only a fraction reports it. Elder abuse isn’t primarily physical. It can be emotional, financial, or neglectful, and in many cases, the abuser is someone the victim knows.
It’s shockingly common, particularly in Detroit, where seniors are targeted. The Detroit News reports that community workshops are held to help older adults recognize scams and protect their assets. CareChoice Agency in Detroit advises considering a caregiver, someone your elderly parent trusts.
Types of Elder Abuse
Physical and Sexual Abuse
This is what most people think of first. However, it can also include overmedicating or restraining someone unnecessarily.
Doctors are at their wits’ end and urge families and healthcare workers to stay alert. A Cleveland Clinic geriatric expert warns that bruises, fractures, or abrupt mood changes can be red flags that deserve a closer look.
Mental Abuse
Emotional torment leaves no physical marks. Unbelievably, it’s as damaging.
One heartbreaking example appeared in a Dear Abby column. A woman shared a story of her sister harassing their elderly mother at home. Emotional cruelty within families can be the hardest to confront. Staying silent only enables it.
Neglect
Occasionally, the harm isn’t active abuse but neglect. How do you know for certain that your loved one is getting their medication, food, or having their personal care needs met? The lack of care could be due to caregiver burnout or intentional mistreatment.
Home care agencies explain that neglect is sometimes unintentional. Nonetheless, it’s dangerous. It can lead to infections, malnutrition, and emotional decline.
Financial Exploitation
Financial abuse is skyrocketing, from scams to family theft. Even the most famous aren’t immune.
Both Gladys Knight and Smokey Robinson have been caught in high-profile elder abuse disputes involving allegations of financial manipulation.
Spotting the Signs
How can you tell if something isn’t right? Trust your gut, and know the clues.
Look for:
- Unexplained bruises, burns, or fractures
- Sudden changes in mood or personality
- Withdrawal from friends or activities
- Unpaid bills or missing money
- Poor hygiene or weight loss
- Fear or anxiety around certain people
- Confusing or inconsistent stories about injuries
U.S. News cautions that subtle changes like unexplained depression or sudden financial decisions can be early signs that something’s wrong.
What to Do if You Suspect Elder Abuse
Initiate a Conversation
It’s tough to ask your parent if someone is hurting them. They might deny it out of fear or shame. Stay calm. Speak gently. Choose a private space and use open-ended questions: “Mom, I’ve noticed you seem upset lately. Is everything OK?”
Showing concern can help them feel safe to open up later, even if not immediately.
Gather Information
Take notes. Document injuries, dates, and observations. Save financial records or suspicious messages. If they live in a care facility, speak with staff or administrators. Don’t outright confront their care provider.
Report It
If you believe your parent is in immediate danger, don’t hesitate to call 911. Reach out to your local Adult Protective Services (APS). You can find your state’s hotline through the NCOA’s elder abuse resource page.
If the abuse involves a care facility, you can also report it to your state’s long-term care ombudsman.
Get Legal and Emotional Support
Abuse cases can get messy when family or money is involved. A reputable elder law attorney can help you navigate restraining orders, guardianship, or financial recovery.
Don’t overlook emotional support. Family counseling or support groups can help.
Awareness and Action
Elder abuse is painful to think about when it involves people we love. Ignoring it won’t make it stop.
The WHO claims that global rates of elder abuse are expected to rise as populations age. Awareness and action matter more than ever. Trust your instincts. Ask the hard questions. Stay involved.
Recruit the help of home care services that are committed to quality care and prioritizing their client’ needs. Ensure your loved one has the power to make everyday choices for their peace of mind.
Your love and vigilance could be the difference between your parent living in fear or living the peaceful life they’ve earned.
